 After many years of struggling, and fighting for my right to be equal with men, I stopped when I finally realised that we're more alike than not: men just want to love, and be loved too. Finding the right match is another story, which is way too big for me to get into here, though! International Women's Day on Thursday made me stop and look back at how far women have come in the last 30 years. My mother wasn't allowed to work outside of the home, because my father had to be seen as the bread winner, so money was tight as he set up his business. My mother acted as his secretary, and when he could afford wages they weren't her own to spend - they were saved until the end of the year, and my father used them to buy a piece of antique furniture for the home. He made every decision on how every penny was spent. When I talked my way on to a 3 month residential management development course, which was for university graduates - when I'd left school at 16, it was only because I was in love with a man who lived in that city. My accidental learning led me to becoming the top assistant manager with a national company. I was the only woman on every training course, and it was the first time my different opinions were listened to, after years of growing up where they were dismissed, because I was only a woman. As a trainee, when I returned to my branch after the courses, I was met with a wall of resentment held by the assistant manager, as the business was a male dominated culture. The branch manager tried to bridge the gap, and one night he asked the assistant to include me in the lift home. When I got out of the car, the assistant manager didn't wait for me to get on to the path - and he drove over my foot. I never mentioned it to anyone - I just kept gritting my teeth behind my smile. My reward came after I'd been promoted as the assistant of another branch, and I'd developed a special Ladies Night where admissions had increased from around 90 to over 900. I'd had to write a report so that everyone in the country could follow my ideas, and my old nemesis had to visit to see how it was done. Yes, that felt good! When I left that job, I was replaced by 4 people ... Working under a huge amount of pressure to constantly prove myself is something I never wanted to repeat. The internet has created a level playing field for everyone, and we can celebrate all the wonderful women who we would never have known before, and appreciate their total liberation to speak freely. Get in touch if you're ready to shout your message from the rooftops! The Z Point Process will peacefully guide you through your fear of change, and release any limiting beliefs that have held you back. "No one knows like a woman how to say things which are at once gentle and deep." ~ Victor Hugo "As a woman I have no country. As a woman my country is the whole world." ~ Virginia Woolf "A woman uses her intelligence to find reasons to support her intuition." ~ Gilbert K. Chesterton "The woman who can create her own job is the woman who will win fame and fortune." ~ Amelia Earhart
 I had an interesting discussion this week about those who don't "get it", when they're the ones who need to "get it". He admitted he had no success in changing them, which I noted said everything!
When you love helping others, you really do want to particularly help those who are in obvious need. But until they're not only ready to ask for help, but also prepared to take that first step towards change, you will be wasting your time.
I've wasted a lot of time over the years, and now I know that each individual is responsible for themselves. That is not as harsh as it sounds, because once you know that you can create the life you want, you feel powerful and fulfilled, and these are infinitely valuable gifts.
Imagine the difference between having to ask for help, and being able to take your choice from unlimited abundance ... Once you take that first step, you will find all the help you need to support your progress, and it will feel very different when you know you deserve it because you have the faith to reach your goal.
When you're stuck, your thinking is full of resentment for others who have more than you, and because it seems impossible to get more, you're resistant to change that is offered to you freely.
All it takes is a different thought process. Instead of criticising those who have more, look on them as inspiration, and know that they are proof of abundance, and that you can have exactly the same.
You may have experienced giving someone a gift or service that you know will help them, but they refuse to accept it. Instead of feeling good, you will feel like you dropped a heavy rock into a bottomless well. If you continue to feel upset by this your energy will be drained. This lost energy could have been used for several others who would happily have received your help.
By showing those who are ready for change how good it feels to know they can access unlimited abundance, they will share their experiences, and by example their new sense of happiness will ripple out to those around them. You will be far more effective if you share your help with those who are receptive, because the word will spread far more quickly than if you spend hours on one person who is resistant to change.
Don't waste a second debating what you know to be true - always go with the flow, and watch the ripples grow.
"Belief like any other moving body follows the path of least resistance." - Samuel Butler
"If I have resistance to something, it means there's something wrong. The resistance to me is a sign of fear." - Billy Corgan
"Commitment is the enemy of resistance, for it is the serious promise to press on, to get up, no matter how many times you are knocked down." - David McNally
 Limiting beliefs aren't things that only other people have ... even if you don't acknowledge them they're still affecting every decision you make.
You know when you have a limiting belief - because you won't be happy and fulfilled in that area of your life. When you don't believe 100% that you can achieve whatever you dream of, then you need to release the limitations that are holding you back.
Sometimes you will have a memory that feels uncomfortable, so you push it back down, and try to hide from it, because you don't want to feel bad. That won't work! That memory will return every time you return to the same subject, or even turn up out of the blue when you're thinking about something entirely different.
Do you really want that memory of unhappiness to roam freely, with the ability to change your mood at any time?
It's impossible to relax when you know you have that memory, and it will remain as a constant, nagging worry in your subconscious. If you knew you could clear that memory completely so that it no longer had any hold over you - how would that feel?
If you knew that you could not only lose that memory, but you could do it without feeling bad, and end by feeling amazingly relaxed and happy - would you want to do it immediately?
The ZPoint Process is pain-free, simple, quick, and blissfully peaceful. That's why I love it - it clears all the stuff I used to try and hide from, and now I feel lighter, and prepared to take on challenges I couldn't attempt before.
You too can lose your limiting beliefs, and find the joy in life from experiencing new and exciting dreams.
"Belief creates the actual fact." - William James
"A cheerful frame of mind, reinforced by relaxation ... is the medicine that puts all ghosts of fear on the run." - George Matthew Adams
"Faith is to believe what we do not see; and the reward of this faith is to see what we believe." - Saint Aurelius Augustine (354 - 430 AD)
 There is no doubt that everyone has situations that cause anger, frustration, and sadness - but not everyone deals with them in the same way.
We all have different programming that we've collected along the way, right back to childhood, which embeds into our subconscious. We then have thousands of subconscious thoughts compared to each single conscious thought.
This means that your reaction to a bad situation is not from your logical mind, but from your past. It doesn't matter how rational or practical you are - you're still not in charge of your thoughts, and therefore you're not in charge of your emotional responses.
You will have heard that until you change the thoughts that created the problem, you won't be able to find the solution. Asking yourself to think differently when you're in the middle of the upset might seem impossible. It's easy to get sucked into the old patterns, but there is an easy way to step outside them, and detach yourself from your emotions.
Z Point stops the stream of subconscious thoughts crowding into your mind, and muddling your attempts to find a solution. Without any effort from you, you will feel deeply relaxed and enjoy the benefits of meditation. As the problem fades away you are able to see the situation from a distance, and that new perspective allows you to change the way you resolve it.
Knowing you can reach a place of calm relaxation in minutes changes your life. Z Point is the easiest way to find the answers that are right for you - based on clarity, and not on your foggy, ancient history.
"Meditation is the soul's perspective glass." - Owen Feltham
"We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are." - Anaïs Nin
"If you nurture your mind, body, and spirit, your time will expand. You will gain a new perspective that will allow you to accomplish much more." - Brian Koslow
 Once you're able to love all of you, exactly as you are right now, with no exceptions, then everything in your life will fall into place.
When you stop criticising yourself, finding faults, and deflecting anything that comes close to being a compliment, your whole world will be happier. Not only do you learn to like yourself, but you also learn to like others too.
Do you join in with friends gossiping about the way movie stars look on the red carpet, for example? It might seem like harmless fun, but it isn't. It's a sign that you're not content with yourself, and the more you look for faults in others, the more you will find faults in yourself.
When you make it a habit to look for something good about everyone you meet, before your critical thoughts start up, you will soon notice the difference. The more observant you become, the more you will see to compliment, so your world will fill with good things to make you much happier than when you were instantly judging others harshly.
The Z Point Process leaves you feeling deeply relaxed, and extremely peaceful, which makes it much easier to connect to the emotion of love. It's certainly impossible to feel hate when you've been through the Process! Z Point releases fear, which is the source of hate, and every negative emotion, and replaces it with love.
As you come to love yourself, you soften, and become more kind and gentle, and as this grows into your view of others, you will lose your hard cynicism, and you will have created a loving world.
"A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge." - Thomas Carlyle
"Love is always bestowed as a gift - freely, willingly and without expectation. We don't love to be loved; we love to love." - Leo Buscaglia
 _Most of you will have experienced sadness, illness, loss or pain. How you incorporate these into your life, following a period of adjustment, determines your levels of happiness and success.
If you take a fixed position that what happened to you was so traumatic that you can never overcome it, then that will be the case, and you will always remain stuck, and unable to move forward.
If you are able to detach yourself emotionally from your experiences, you will be able to become more objective, and see that, no matter how bad it was at the time, circumstances are different now, and you have the opportunity to change how it affects you today.
Looking at a serious illness, such as cancer, for example, if you take the factual viewpoint that between 1 in 2 to 3 people will get cancer in some form, then it's clear that 33% - 50% are not sitting at home wishing if only they hadn't had cancer then they could go out and achieve what they really want in life.
This shows that it is possible to get over your past, and become a success despite anything that has happened to you. The Z Point Process can release upsetting times, so that they lose their power over you. This leaves you free to become all that you are truly capable of.
Think about the lack of choice you are living with if you decide that you prefer to cling to the victim role, and allow your history to define who you are, and what you do.
Or you can choose to live with the unlimited potential that is available to everyone. It is always possible to write a new story, and with the help of Z Point you can choose a very happy ending.
"Our past is a story existing only in our minds. Look, analyze, understand, and forgive. Then, as quickly as possible, chuck it." - Marianne Williamson
"I never told a victim story about my imprisonment. Instead, I told a transformation story - about how prison changed my outlook, about how I saw that communication, truth, and trust are at the heart of power." - Fernando Flores
 Have you found that when you have a big goal that means a lot to you it seems so far away in the future that it feels impossible to reach?
When you feel passionately attached to the outcome, you can become overwhelmed with how much you need to learn, do, or change in order to get there. Putting pressure on yourself can lead to you doing nothing, and remaining stuck.
To prevent that happening, focus on the present, and make every day as happy as possible, no matter what your circumstances are. Stop your thoughts when they feel dissatisfied with your present situation, and do the best you can. That way, you will progress gradually to achieving all that you really want.
Do you think your life will improve only when you attain your desire?
Making your happiness conditional on losing weight, for example, means you're wasting a lot of time feeling sad and frustrated. Don't wait until you've reached your target before you buy new clothes - treat yourself well today so that you feel content exactly as you are now.
By making the most of your life as it is now, and by being grateful for everything, you show trust that your goal will come to you - and it will. Once you're confident that you can achieve whatever you want, without any doubts, and you focus on the exact feelings you will have once you get there, you will attract your goal.
The Z Point Process releases blocks from the past which have created limiting beliefs. When you experience the deep relaxation regularly, you gain the benefits of meditation, and you have a peaceful view of life. This allows you to appreciate every little thing, and really enjoy every moment, so that you lose your worries and concerns about the future.
Once you're able to face each day calmly, with clarity, you will find it easier to take the necessary steps towards your goal, and your future will fall into place naturally.
"Who controls the past controls the future. Who controls the present controls the past." - George Orwell
"Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment." - Buddha
 It's said that 92% give up their New Year Resolution before the end of January. It isn't easy giving up an old habit which isn't good for you, and when I stopped smoking after 20 years, I ached for 6 months with the need to smoke. I was so bad tempered that friends begged me to start again!
I didn't know I possessed such a strong certainty that I would never smoke again, and I can't imagine ever being able to go through that prolonged torment again. I feel extremely grateful that I don't have to now I know how I can release anything that makes me unhappy in a wonderfully relaxed, and peaceful way. Being able to use the Z Point Process on every little thing that causes stress means that I no longer get as upset when something more challenging does come along.
Knowing that I have the ability to reduce the power of anything over me is extremely reassuring. Yes, I can still react emotionally initially, but far less than before I experienced Z Point regularly. Now I take a deep breath, and simply place whatever the issue is into the Clearing Circle, and I soon feel calm and detached, as each round allows the stress to fade away.
Following a Z Point session I'm able to view the situation clearly, instead of being locked into a chaotic emotional state, which only prolongs the upset, and prevents any solution being found. Send for the free eBook on the right for an introduction to this peaceful process.
I now appreciate all the challenges, and failed resolutions, that kept me searching for something which suited me. Being both simple and effortless, plus leaving me feeling deeply relaxed, makes Z Point perfect for me. So, there is never any reason for you to berate yourself for failing - it's just a step towards finding the right answer for you.
"Far better is it to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure... than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy nor suffer much, because they live in a gray twilight that knows not victory nor defeat." - Theodore Roosevelt
"Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed on an equal or greater benefit." - Napoleon Hill
 If you have an issue which keeps coming to light every time you make a New Year Resolution, then you know it's something you would really love to change. Just because you haven't been able to achieve your goal before, it doesn't mean you should give up - only that you need to find the solution that works for you. There are many reasons why you fail, and only you know when you're ready to make a change, and stick to it until you succeed. Knowing you 'should' do something for a logical reason isn't enough - you have to feel it's your time as a gut instinct.My mother died only 3 months after her diagnosis of cancer, and I'd gone home to look after her, so I knew very intimately how dangerous smoking was. A year later I also went through the same experiences as my mother - being dismissed by specialists and doctors, until I was lucky enough to have a check up with a trainee, who gave me a basic test which hadn't been done ... and stage 3 cancer was found. I was more fortunate than my mother, because my operation caught everything, so that I was cleared of cancer. Even after all the physical and emotional pain, I still couldn't stop smoking. This made no rational sense whatsoever, but I couldn't find the inner strength to quit. I was in a bad relationship which undermined my confidence, so I'd lost my self-worth. After 3 years of telling this man daily to leave my home, he only went after a final violent fight, where he was convinced he'd thrown me down the stairs, and left me for dead. The next New Year I had one session of hypnotherapy, came out, and lit up a cigarette. I was shocked that I could give in so easily, so I became very strong willed, and determined that I would never smoke again. The reason I was able to succeed was that I decided I cared about myself. That made all the difference to my life, and I've continued to learn to love myself, and I know that's what is necessary to be able to reach a personal goal. I wish I'd experienced the Z Point Process back then, it would have made my life so much easier. I would have known how to value myself, and also know that I deserved so much more. I would have cleared the negative history with my father, so that I wouldn't have endured bad relationships. I'm very grateful that I found Z Point, because it has been so simple to release the past, and be able to forgive everyone and everything. My life is so much better living with peace of mind, instead of anger and resentment. I've told you this because I know you can feel ashamed and guilty when you can't stop a habit which is harmful to your health. I don't judge anyone, because I understand your mind has its own reasons and memories which explain your present choices. I do know how Z Point can free you from the history locked in your subconscious, so that you're able to make healthier choices in future. Get in touch with any questions, and I will tell you how I can support you to reach your goal. "It is never too late to be who you might have been." - George Eliot "When solving problems, dig at the roots instead of just hacking at the leaves." - Anthony J. D'Angelo
 If you've found life challenging, so you've felt like you were treading water just to survive, then 2012 is the time for you to reach out, and take what you really want from your life. When you settle and make do, you will make yourself even unhappier, because you build up dissatisfaction. If you're not fulfilling your dreams, and you keep pushing them back down - they don't go away ... they sit inside you, nagging away, and reminding you what you're missing out on. As I said last week, when you find inspiration from ordinary people doing extraordinary things, they prove that it's equally possible for you to learn a new skill, and grow into all you are meant to be. They're not any different to you - except that they've worked through their fears, and not allowed anything to get in the way.Make 2012 the year that you stretch yourself, and achieve at least one long-held goal. ZPoint can help you release the fears and limiting beliefs that have held you back, and allow you to experience how great it will feel to be successful. Let go of your doubts, and know you deserve to achieve anything you want. If you want to ask any questions on how I can support you please get in touch. "What we think determines what happens to us, so if we want to change our lives, we need to stretch our minds." - Wayne Dyer "A good goal is like a strenuous exercise - it makes you stretch." - Mary Kay Ash
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