Last week I shared the Tibetan breathing technique, Tonglen. It provides a different approach to the stress which is causing you pain.

Whenever you think about what upsets you, you will feel tighter, and more restricted, even if you aren't aware of these changes. This tension creates aches and pains, so you will be affected both in your mind and body.

Instead, if you treat your stress the same way you treat your pet then you will be gentle, kind and loving, instead of becoming upset and angry. This could feel like a stretch, but by using the Tonglen method you will find it's possible.

By breathing your pain in, you are not denying its existence, and you are no longer trying to resist its hold over you. When you welcome your issue as you relax more with each deep breath, and you send out love, then you will also feel the benefits of the loving emotions.

You might find it easier to give love to others, especially to your pet, while you don't give yourself the same attention. By breathing out love, you are absorbing more as your painful stress is gradually fading away.

This method will help you lessen the fear you can feel when you think about your stress, and when you allow yourself to address it, you will know that you feel better in minutes. Don't put off facing your issues any longer, because each day you feel stressed is another day lost - you can never get it back again.

If your pet was suffering as much as you do, you would take instant action to make it better - so do the same for yourself!

The ZPoint Process communicates with your unconscious effortlessly as you relax, and it can find the source of your stress. For example, you might think your boss at work is the reason, but you could be triggered by how you were spoken to by a teacher when you were young. This means that you're affected by the emotions locked inside you as a child, which is why your reaction is strong enough to cause stress.

ZPoint is as gentle as Tonglen breathing, and when you replace pain with love you've removed the place where that existed, and you will search for more ways to fill yourself up with love.


"The fragrance always remains in the hand that gives the rose." ~ Heda Bejar

"Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver." ~ Barbara de Angelis

The reason why I share the benefits of ZPoint is because it restores feelings of love, by releasing painful stresses. It's an extremely gentle and peaceful way to address fears and pain, so there is no reason why you have to hold on to your issues, and remain unhappy.

It's understandable that you don't want to re-live the intensity of painful experiences, but they don't go away by themselves. Even if you think you can ignore them or forget them - you can't.

They remain with you every second of every day, waiting to appear in your life whenever you activate a trigger which reminds you of the past events.

Pain comes in many forms, both physical and mental, and they can all be eased by facing up to them. You will feel much better knowing that you can take control over how you feel. Changing how you feel is how you know for sure that you've made a difference. Just listening to positive statements won't affect you unless you're already feeling receptive.

The Hawaiian practice of "ho'oponopono" - repeating "I'm sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you, I love you" - heals through forgiveness. This is an ideal to aim for, but when you're in the middle of hurt, it can be an impossible leap, and it takes time for you to believe in it for yourself.

That is where the ZPoint Process can bridge the gap, because it relaxes you in minutes, and allows you to let go of strong emotions effortlessly.


Breathing Exercise

I've always enjoyed breathing exercises because they're effective very quickly, and I've just found one called "Tonglen". It means sending and taking in Tibetan. It's a beautifully simple approach, which also brings peace and balance, but it's an extremely powerful way to take you out of denial, where you try to avoid suffering.

Start by thinking of someone you know who is in pain. Focus on absorbing all their pain as you breathe in. Expand your chest and heart, and imagine your heart dissolving everything, and you send back all your love as you breathe out.

You can visualize the pain entering as black smoke, then dissolving into healing green, and leaving your heart as a cloud of pink, the colour of love.

You can use this same method to heal painful issues of your own, and you will find yourself feeling very peaceful and loving.

A breathing exercise is appropriate for Mother's Day, which is celebrated in America on Sunday, because you have your mother to thank for giving you your first breath.

Happy Mother's Day In The US!

"It is possible to experience an awakening in this life through realising just how precious each moment, each mental process, and each breath truly is." ~ Christy Turlington

"All the principles of heaven and earth are living inside you. Life itself is truth, and this will never change. Everything in heaven and earth breathes. Breath is the thread that ties creation together." ~ Morihei Ueshiba

Last week I discussed how the majority of us will take action to avoid pain, but we don't make that same effort to move towards pleasure.

This is entirely the opposite way to live your life - and it's the reason why you experience more pain than necessary.

Especially online, there are many groups for every pain you will ever experience. While some can be a useful source of information, a lot of them can be places that keep you trapped, because everyone is focusing on their pain.

The Law of Attraction draws to you whatever you pay attention to consistently. If you're constantly sharing sad stories with others, then your energy is being drained, and you will make yourself feel worse. Choose to spend the majority of time with those who lift your spirits.

By learning to watch your thoughts, you can switch your thoughts from whatever pain you're enduring to a happier thought which makes you feel good.

Make a list of easily available treats and fun activities that will lift your mood. This can include anything -

• delicious herbal tea
• dancing madly to a favourite song
• curling up with a good book
• creating a new, inspiring Pinterest board
• watching a funny video

I loved these really cute cat videos below - I'm sure they'll make you feel warm and fuzzy too.

If you love taking photographs, pick up your camera and start looking for some interesting subjects. You will soon become absorbed as you focus on setting up your shots, and your pain will begin to fade.

This is exactly how you can change how you feel in minutes, and the more often you focus on what brings you pleasure, the more you will find your life fills with pleasure.

Relaxing deeply with ZPoint allows you to release each issue that causes you pain, which makes it much easier to focus on what you would love to manifest. With ZPoint you can leave the past with painful experiences behind, and aim towards everything that makes you happy.

"Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have - life itself." ~ Walter Anderson

"There is something terribly morbid in the modern sympathy with pain. One should sympathise with the colour, the beauty, the joy of life. The less said about life's sores the better." ~ Oscar Wilde

90% are motivated to avoid pain, and only 10% are motivated to look for pleasure.

This is a very sad statistic.

Everyone is born with the emotions of love and fear, and when you can fill your life with love - you will overcome all your fears.

I know it's easier said than done - but it is entirely possible.

A baby has the simple fears of falling and loud noises, but as each year passes you collect more fears, until you can find yourself frozen, and unable to make adventurous choices into the unknown.

Do you look at others who trek across deserts, climb mountains, and sail the oceans, and tell yourself you would never be brave enough to follow in their footsteps? Those are big goals - but imagine if our ancestors had allowed their fears to rule their lives - we would still believe that the earth was flat!

For some of you, leaving your home on your own would fill you with fear. This is what can happen when you become overwhelmed with fears imposed on you by others, until you've lost confidence in your own strength and courage.

Your life should be continually focused on releasing each of your fears, so you free yourself from all the limitations and restrictions they place on you. You might not remember your mother telling you to be careful when you crossed the road, to watch out for the hot fireplace, not to talk to strangers . . . but all of these warnings can accumulate, and your subconscious will fill with reasons to continue to tell you that the world is a dangerous place.

If you've had a bad experience it can trigger the memories of all the times you've felt frightened by what you were told as a child, and you can lose perspective on the present situation. This is where focus is needed: memories from the past don't serve you, and you can't control an uncertain future - so you need to be able to make peace with this moment, here and now.

The ZPoint Process is a peaceful way to release the past by communicating with your unconscious. This is how you can let go of the source of old fears that you couldn't do on your own.

I helped someone overcome their very intense distress, when they knew they couldn't continue feeling suffocated by all the fears of their overly anxious mother. I gently guided them to release their feelings, as I pointed out how those same fears were being passed on to their children, and making them nervous and insecure too.

You don't want to continue a cycle of fear - you want to step forward with excitement, and grasp every opportunity that comes your way. If you find yourself saying "no" more often than you say "yes" - get in touch, and I can help you replace fear with love.


"Fear stifles our thinking and actions. It creates indecisiveness that results in stagnation. I have known talented people who procrastinate indefinitely rather than risk failure. Lost opportunities cause erosion of confidence, and the downward spiral begins." ~ Charles Stanley

"Ultimately we know deeply that the other side of every fear is freedom." ~ Marilyn Ferguson

If you've never experienced the feeling of deep and absolute peace, you might think you're perfectly capable of relaxing yourself.

Maybe you switch off when you watch your favourite movie, or when you have an aromatherapy massage.

No matter what you try, your mind will still be active. It might have slowed down, and you might be having more pleasurable thoughts - but you're still thinking.  These techniques may make you feel better, but they won't fully relieve your stress.

Often, the more you try to relax, the more you tense up, or your mind starts to fill with all the things that need doing, and have been left unfinished. It isn't easy to forget everything else around you, and not become distracted.

Even if you've taken relaxation more seriously, and you learn how to meditate, you will know how difficult it is to cope with the constant flow of thoughts, and when you're supposed to just let them pass by you're now aware of that new thought . . . and it links to another thought . . .

Finding peace of mind should not be stressful! That's why I love the simplicity of ZPoint. You gradually sink deeper into a state of relaxation where you stop thinking - you just feel - and that is a feeling of pure bliss.

Once your whole body and mind have let go, and you have no cares or worries, you are floating on a different level - and that level is completely stress free. Only when you know how good that feels do you know the difference between this place where you are detached from all stress, and any attempt to manage your stress.

It's unlike anything else, and because it's so easy ZPoint is the perfect way to find peace in this chaotic world.


"You will find peace not by trying to escape your problems, but by confronting them courageously. You will find peace not in denial, but in victory." ~ J. Donald Walters

"The simplification of life is one of the steps to inner peace. A persistent simplification will create an inner and outer well-being that places harmony in one's life." ~ Peace Pilgrim

Think of your mind as a spare room in your house where you keep dumping everything.

The things you're not sure what to do with, but you might need them one day.

The things that hold memories of people you no longer see.

The things that were passed down through your family, and they don't fit anywhere.

Every day your mind collects more things, and you have to start noticing, and make decisions what to do with them. The more you fill your life with things you don't need, the less room you have to be able to think clearly, or the space you crave to simply sit and dream.

If your mind is overflowing with loose ends, thoughts will constantly interrupt you, and prevent you from making instant choices, because you will hear 'maybe', and 'but', and 'what if' . . .

Spring is the traditional time to clean your house, so make a plan to clear up old issues, in exactly the same way that you organize clearing out your spare room, and you will feel immediate results and benefits. Make a list of what upsets you, and let each one go, until you feel happy and content.

Once you've laid old issues to rest, and released everything that is unsettling you, your mind will no longer be confused, and you will become more selective, so that you only listen to the things which make you feel good. You won't want to go back to having negative thoughts, because you know how much better you feel once you've let them go.

The ZPoint Process is the easiest way I've ever found to release anything that stops the mind feeling peaceful and calm. You can say goodbye to something that has been lurking in a corner, collecting dust for years, in only a few minutes. And that is goodbye forever!  

Why hold on to anything that upsets you when it's so easy to let go? You can live a stress-free life when you discover how much ZPoint can help you. For less than $4, or under £3, you can get the introductory Amazon Kindle, with a link to download a full ZPoint Session. Listen to it every night, and by the end of the week you will feel lighter, as you let go of whatever is weighing you down. Click on the Kindle on the right - and begin to experience how good you can feel in minutes.


"Often when a person can't get past stress, she will turn to overeating, drinking or smoking, which can become a greater problem than the stress itself." ~ Marilu Henner 

"There's so much going on in the world. There's so much information being thrown at us - so many things are being sold to us, and we're being told how we should appear and how to be more successful, blah, blah, blah. How does that manifest itself? In the pressures, the stress, this need to escape." ~ Michael Fassbender

I love reading how successful people overcame struggles and traumas, and I feel inspired by their tenacity and determination to not let anything stop them.

Some have such shockingly awful experiences, that it's difficult to comprehend how they could find the courage to reach the top of their own personal mountain.

Many others find that they remain frozen in the past, and they become trapped by their memories.

Story Musgrave is a former NASA astronaut who came from a dysfunctional family. He spent nights out in the forest alone at the age of only 3, and he became a high school dropout. From that background he felt so hopeless that he wrote to his family: "I am going to bring an end to this shifting, indifferent, no-interest, unconstructive, worthless, no-security, not-give-a-damn, miserable life that I have been living."

But he went on to not only become a medical doctor and a surgeon, but also a mathematician, chemist, biophysicist, physiologist, computer scientist, poet, artist and author. He flew 6 space missions, and logged 25 million miles.

For anybody to achieve just one of those skills would be highly admirable, but to master so many is incredible.

From an interview with Gabrielle Reilly, Musgrave shared: "So opposed to looking at all those things you know back then, and saying that was a massive dysfunctional catastrophe, and that is my excuse for not doing anything in life, that is a kind of victimization psychology that some people embrace, but I did just the opposite with it. I turned it into a positive. I turned it into thinking, by golly I am a survivor, I know how to swim in stuff like that, and not get it on me and go forward."

Can you look back at incidents from your past that have been very distressing, and decide that because you've come through the other side you've gained the strength to cope with anything?

It's an amazing way to be able to look at life, because it shows that you can grow from each test and challenge. If you'd never been tested you would have no reason to push yourself to achieve more. If life was easy you would just stay in bed, and not bother to try anything new.

Just read again the list of accomplishments that Story Musgrave attained:

Astronaut
Medical doctor
Surgeon
Mathematician
Chemist
Biophysicist
Physiologist
Computer scientist
Poet
Artist
Author

If your dream of reaching any new goal remains just a dream because you feel stuck in your past - get in touch. With the ZPoint Process I can help you to release all the emotional attachments, so that you are finally free to move forward into the future of your choice.


"Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved." ~ Helen Keller

"Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars." ~ Khalil Gibran

I used to have an antiques and collectables shop, and I always loved beautiful old postcards. After finding a collection of Valentines Cards online I created an Amazon Kindle with romantic quotes, poetry, myths and legends: "Vintage Valentines".

I always loved researching and learning more about the treasures I found, and now that everything I want to know is so easily accessible on the internet I have too many nights with too little sleep...

I love how one idea leads to another, and I decided to make a Kindle for Easter, but the amount of information I collected grew, so I had to split it up. I finished one called "Vintage Easter For Children" - see below, and maybe the original book will be ready in time for next Easter!

Obviously, reading legends and the history of Easter has made me think about the Christian religion. Even if you aren't religious, or you have a different faith, the story of Easter is one that we can all learn from.

Jesus taught us that we should forgive those who have done us wrong. Once you can let go of anger and hurt, then you help yourself to heal.

The resurrection proved that there is life after death, and Jesus gave us all hope. Showing there is light after darkness encourages us to never give up.

No matter how bad things may appear, there is always the possibility that there can be new life, new starts, and new directions to turn things around.

So, you never need to feel stuck, or that everything is hopeless - Jesus was sent to show us that there is more to life, and when we become more spiritual we also become happier.

"The resurrection gives my life meaning and direction and the opportunity to start over no matter what my circumstances." - Robert Flatt

"Easter spells out beauty, the rare beauty of new life." - S.D. Gordon

How often have you wanted to try something new, but you've allowed fear to win?How would you like to let go of everything associated with your fears - easily, and in minutes?

Imagine what your life will look like when you can do everything you've always wanted to do - with nothing getting in your way . . .

That's a real possibility with the ZPoint Process. It's safe, peaceful, and you will feel the difference in minutes. It isn't like some methods where you're told to relax, which immediately makes you tense up. You're not told how to feel - you simply will feel deeply relaxed - effortlessly.

Because you feel the changes yourself, you know when your energy shifts, and you are able to let go of the limiting beliefs behind your fear. The Process happens very gradually, as all tension leaves your body, and is replaced by blissful lightness - a pretty good exchange!

Feeling fear is completely natural, and everyone feels it to some degree when they think about something new. But don't keep giving in to fear, because it will only build up, and you will find your options become more and more restricted. Wouldn't you prefer the freedom of saying yes?

Think about your favourite actor or singer - they will have said that they feel nervous before a performance, but they conquer it because they love getting on stage so much. You would really miss all their talents if they decided that they couldn't get over their natural fears - and they would miss the amazing rewards that acting and singing brings them.

If fear is preventing you from stepping on to a new stage in your life get in touch with any questions, and discover you can get over your fears, and choose the future you really want. Each time you try something new, you will feel your confidence grow - and growing and learning is what makes life worthwhile.


"Fear stifles our thinking and actions. It creates indecisiveness that results in stagnation. I have known talented people who procrastinate indefinitely rather than risk failure. Lost opportunities cause erosion of confidence, and the downward spiral begins." ~ Charles Stanley

"Ultimately we know deeply that the other side of every fear is freedom." ~ Marilyn Ferguson

On Friday in the UK there was the Comic Relief fundraiser to collect money for those in need in Africa, and in this country. A lot of celebrities gave their time to entertain in many different ways - from funny sketches to risking their lives negotiating the dangerous Zambezi river.

The singer, Jessie J, had her beautiful hair shaved off as you can see here.

Simon Cowell is known for avoiding marriage, and he sent himself up in this short comedy.

Comic Relief supports so many victims of their unfortunate circumstances, and the millions raised changes their lives. We live in a society that is spoiled with so much that is extraneous to living healthily. Children make their parents feel guilty if they don't have the latest games player, with every available game.

They moan about going to school, and some refuse to go, and find trouble instead. Children in Africa don't have the luxury of time to get into trouble. We've seen many examples where the children walk miles to get to the nearest school, and others who have to work instead, to look after their families. They don't know what it is to have toys and technology - they're dying because they don't have the basics of food and clean water.

The next time you wish you had something new, stop for a second and think if you're safe, with enough to eat and drink, then you have a lot to be grateful for. You have more than the millions living in poverty, who only want the opportunity to better themselves.

If you have the chance to help someone who wants to help themselves - find a way, and make kindness to others a habit. You will find that appreciating what you have will also make you happier, because focusing on what you do have will bring you more of the same . . . and you will be able to share more.


"Sometimes our light goes out but is blown into flame by another human being. Each of us owes deepest thanks to those who have rekindled this light." ~ Albert Schweitzer

"It always seems impossible until its done." ~ Nelson Mandela