However you feel right now - whether it's anger, frustration, sadness, or just dissatisfaction with where you are - the first step is to Accept all of your feelings.
That can be hard, because you can find you're keeping busy, and filling your life with distractions. The more you avoid everything about yourself, the further away you are from complete happiness.
We're programmed to keep safe and comfortable - and it takes courage to break out, and upset what we think is OK. You don't want an OK life - you want a great one!
So, embrace all that you are, and Accept each and every little thing. Don't have lingering thoughts of "I'd like myself better if I was . . . " - Acceptance means you, right now - warts and all. This is a time to be kind to yourself. Let go of critical judgements.
If you're hiding parts of you because you're ashamed, or you don't think others could handle you, you're holding yourself back. When you stop judging yourself, and make peace with every facet of you, then nobody else can judge you.
Being free of the opinions of others - because you know you're enough - is extremely liberating.
When you know you can listen to yourself, and trust yourself, you don't need to depend on the opinions of others. This frees you from going through the 'Can I / Can't I believe in them?' process, and also eliminates blame if things go wrong.
Becoming responsible for your own emotions is not an easy road - but a very worthwhile one.
Once you Accept yourself - then others will accept you exactly as you are too, and you'll develop honest and open relationships, which fully support you. Don't scatter your energies on trying to please those who don't understand you.
Only when you Accept all of you, can you Accept all that the Universe has to offer.
Every time you think things will change once you lose a bit more weight, or once you have the patience of a saint - you are building a block to prevent the Universe finding ALL of you to deliver ALL that you really want.
Know that nobody is perfect, and nobody expects you to be perfect - so ease up on yourself. Everyone makes mistakes, and will continue to make more mistakes - don't beat yourself up, and definitely don't dwell on them.
It's easy to take down the wall you've built up to hide the true you with ZPoint. You can let go of everything that is holding you back - and feel the enormous relief of feeling free to express everything that is part of the specialness that is you.
It feels great sending the signal to the Universe saying, "Here I am! I'm ready now!" Don't keep hitting every red light, and stopping your flow - get in touch if you want to show green lights for go!
“When you adopt the viewpoint that there is nothing that exists that is not part of you, that there is no one who exists who is not part of you, that any judgment you make is self-judgment, that any criticism you level is self-criticism, you will wisely extend to yourself an unconditional love that will be the light of the world.” ~ Harry Palmer
“When I accept myself, I am freed from the burden of needing you to accept me.” ~ Steve Maraboli
“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn't try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn't need others' approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.” ~ Lao Tzu
“The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.” ~ Mark Twain
“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” ~ Gautama Buddha
“We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.” ~ Dalai Lama XIV
“Love yourself—accept yourself—forgive yourself—and be good to yourself, because without you the rest of us are without a source of many wonderful things.” ~ Leo F. Buscaglia