As much as the air we breathe, and the water we drink - we all need love. Instead of waiting for the romantic notion of love, where our other half will save us - focus on loving yourself first.
It's only when you already feel loved that you can attract pure, unconditional love that encourages you to blossom and grow. You will then find that love comes in many forms - from the smile of a passing stranger, from petting a neighbor's dog, from supportive comments on social media - it is everywhere, and everything.
The more you love yourself, and feel the reassurance that the Universe has an endless supply of love for you, the more confident you become, which enables you to open up to a place of safety where you can explore all the possibilities that wait for you.
Too many children grow up without the security of knowing absolutely they are loved. This is the foundation for healthy relationships in the future, and many years can be lost searching for love in all the wrong places, because they don't have a pattern to copy.
Whatever circumstances you came from, or presently live in - you can create your own new pattern for love. Once you believe that the Universe is always caring for you, you can let go of bad memories, and replace them with the peaceful knowing that love is always inside you.
Wherever you go - you carry love with you. You don't need anyone else to top you up with more love when you're able to access your own feelings of love for yourself.
If I could send a message to my young self, it would be, "Focus on feeling your own source of love, and only connect with those who are able to share the same unconditional love. You don't have to settle for less, because you already have more than enough love from an endless supply."
It's impossible to find a true loving relationship when you're empty, and needing love. That is when you make yourself vulnerable, and possibly attract those who take advantage. Avoid confusion by remembering - love never hurts.
Only when you make conscious choices to find whatever makes you feel good, and nurtures your spirit, will you see how much love you have inside - the happier you feel, the more love you have to share - and the more love will be returned to you.
When you're already full of love, and sure in the knowledge that you will always be loved by a kind and loving Universe - you only give out a loving energy, which attracts those with genuine hearts.
You have to love yourself first, before you can receive the love you deserve.
"The deeper you love yourself, the more the Universe will affirm your worth. Then you can enjoy a lifelong love affair that brings you the richest fulfillment from inside out." ~ Alan Cohen
"There is nothing to learn about love. Everything is already there, in our genes, in our nature. We don't have to learn anything except what we invent in this world of illusion. We search for love outside ourselves when love is all around us. Love is everywhere, but we don't have the eyes to see... Your heart can create any amount of love, not just for yourself, but for the whole world. When we know that our heart is a magical kitchen, we are always generous and our love is completely unconditional." ~ Don Miguel Ruiz
“The secret of attraction is to love yourself. Attractive people judge neither themselves nor others. They are open to gestures of love. They think about love, and express their love in every action. They know that love is not a mere sentiment, but the ultimate truth at the heart of the Universe.” ~ Deepak Chopra