I always wrote things like: "I hope you have a good time", and it's only on reflection that I can see how that leaves room for doubt . . . Even though I only had the best of intentions, using that phrase meant that they might possibly not have a good time!
I've now changed my weekly eZine greeting to: "I trust you had a good week", because that creates the belief that they did have a good time. Something that small and simple puts a complete spin on how you begin to watch the words that you use.
I can remember years ago a friend got very annoyed when I used the sign off "Take care" at the end of my emails. I didn't understand at the time, because I thought I was being caring, but finally I see what they meant. By hoping that they will take care of themselves, this creates the chance that the future might hold adverse circumstances for them.
It made me realize how often I'd used these words when I lived in a world of uncertainty that was out of my control. I was unconscious of how losing two family members in road traffic accidents affected how I communicated with those I was close to. I would wish someone leaving: "Have a safe journey", which is now an obvious fear that they wouldn't arrive home safely.
These are generic phrases that many of you use regularly, but if you stop to look at them, you can see that they raise doubts of a positive outcome. Once you change these, and know deep down inside that your loved ones will remain safe and secure, then you live in a world without fear - which is a much happier place!
When you feel confident that the world is full of goodness, and you believe it will provide you with good experiences - then that is what you will find. (This is not hiding my head in the sand - I know that creating a positive future is infinitely preferable to being stuck in the sadness of the past.)
Don't drift through life passively wishing and hoping - by actively choosing new words you can change your thoughts and beliefs - which will change your results.
As I learn something new on my journey, I'm continually grateful for how much ZPoint has changed me. I love that I can now become still, calm and peaceful in minutes, lose all my fears, and replace them with love and a little more understanding. Get in touch if you'd like to join me on this interesting journey!
"There is no hope unmingled with fear, and no fear unmingled with hope." ~ Baruch Spinoza
"Desire is the starting point of all achievement, not a hope, not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything." ~ Napoleon Hill