Because I look out for love quotes to keep topping myself up, I feel sad when so many are attached to needing love from someone else. I understand it's a natural compulsion, but when you have more than a couple of relationships that haven't worked out well it's time to start loving yourself first. This is a fun and helpful TED talk: Searching for love to escape ourselves by Hayley Quinn https://youtu.be/jmUayKnHWWM
With or Without You, by U2 brings back the heartache of breakups: https://youtu.be/cJZMTcyqsYk I want you to listen to the lines "You give yourself away".
This is what you do every time you make the wrong choice, and giving yourself away hurts more each time until you can't remember who you really are, and you've lost your self-worth.
I've always told friends that there is someone for everyone, no matter who you are, when their insecurities got in the way of facts. There is a TV series in the UK, The Undateables. I don't like the name - nobody is undateable - but it shows people with disabilities finding love, collecting proof that there are no barriers to love.
You need to stop being critical of yourself, and start focusing on your good points:
1) List all the ways you're loving, kind and caring.
2) List everything you like about your appearance.
Take deep breaths, and smile as you breathe in, while you focus on these lists at the end of every day. The more you practice this, the more things you'll find to add to your lists.
Your 'other half' doesn't exist.
You are whole, and when you focus on appreciating all that you already are you will be full of love for yourself.
We're brought up to search for our other half, as though we're not complete on our own. You have nothing missing, and when you no longer look for someone to fill the void in your heart you will begin to connect to the love you have inside.
Don't wait for a partner to go out and enjoy life. Do what makes you happy every day to reinforce how you deserve to be loved.
Only when you love yourself unconditionally
can you attract love that treats you with equal respect.
Love the feeling of love for love's sake - don't make it dependent on someone else.
“It’s surprising how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you’re not comfortable within yourself, you can’t be comfortable with others.” ~ Sidney J. Harris
“Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are – completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.” ~ Stacey Charter
“There are days I drop words of comfort on myself like falling leaves and remember that it is enough to be taken care of by myself.” ~ Brian Andreas
“You are not an option, a choice or a soft place to land after a long battle. You were meant to be the one. If you can wrap yourself around the idea that you are something incredible, then you will stop excusing behavior that rapes your very soul. You were never meant to teach someone to love you. You were meant to be loved.” ~ Shannon L. Alder
“If only you knew how beautiful you are unconditionally. Don’t you know it’s enough if all you do is breathe?” ~ Brittany Burgunder
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