International Women's Day on Thursday made me stop and look back at how far women have come in the last 30 years. My mother wasn't allowed to work outside of the home, because my father had to be seen as the bread winner, so money was tight as he set up his business. My mother acted as his secretary, and when he could afford wages they weren't her own to spend - they were saved until the end of the year, and my father used them to buy a piece of antique furniture for the home. He made every decision on how every penny was spent.
When I talked my way on to a 3 month residential management development course, which was for university graduates - when I'd left school at 16, it was only because I was in love with a man who lived in that city. My accidental learning led me to becoming the top assistant manager with a national company. I was the only woman on every training course, and it was the first time my different opinions were listened to, after years of growing up where they were dismissed, because I was only a woman.
As a trainee, when I returned to my branch after the courses, I was met with a wall of resentment held by the assistant manager, as the business was a male dominated culture. The branch manager tried to bridge the gap, and one night he asked the assistant to include me in the lift home. When I got out of the car, the assistant manager didn't wait for me to get on to the path - and he drove over my foot.
I never mentioned it to anyone - I just kept gritting my teeth behind my smile. My reward came after I'd been promoted as the assistant of another branch, and I'd developed a special Ladies Night where admissions had increased from around 90 to over 900. I'd had to write a report so that everyone in the country could follow my ideas, and my old nemesis had to visit to see how it was done. Yes, that felt good!
When I left that job, I was replaced by 4 people ... Working under a huge amount of pressure to constantly prove myself is something I never wanted to repeat. The internet has created a level playing field for everyone, and we can celebrate all the wonderful women who we would never have known before, and appreciate their total liberation to speak freely.
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"No one knows like a woman how to say things which are at once gentle and deep." ~ Victor Hugo
"As a woman I have no country. As a woman my country is the whole world." ~ Virginia Woolf
"A woman uses her intelligence to find reasons to support her intuition." ~ Gilbert K. Chesterton
"The woman who can create her own job is the woman who will win fame and fortune." ~ Amelia Earhart