My father was extremely strict, and he never showed any love. Obviously that affected my ability to form trusting, and loving relationships. Through my twenties I attracted every unsuitable connection possible, and I became extremely cynical.
That is what I really want you to avoid - never be cynical. Building a wall of sarcasm to stop anyone getting close, including the good ones, is truly a waste of too many years.
All I knew was to expect bad relationships - and that's exactly what was delivered. I had zero self-esteem behind my false front, which meant I tolerated unacceptable behavior. I simply didn't believe in a long lasting, loving partnership because I'd never seen one - my cynical, restricted viewpoint only allowed me to see negative reinforcements.
I'm writing this after hearing confirmation that someone I helped has found their perfect partner. I'm so happy that I could help them release the pain of growing up without loving parents, which led to an unsatisfactory marriage to escape. The partner replicated the pattern of their parents, so they'd never known real love or trust.
I help them make peace with ending a 30 year marriage, and ensured they felt they deserved to have a secure, loving relationship. It's been wonderful watching them grow, literally explore the world, and now believe that this new partner is the right one.
Acting strong and cynical only keeps you distanced from the love you need. No matter how many years you've been without genuine love, you can let go of the past which has held you back, and allow in the new expectation that you only deserve the best.
It's never too late to make a new start, and fill it only with expecting love, and more love... The right partner is waiting for you to let them in.
"Today expect something good to happen to you no matter what occurred yesterday. Realize the past no longer holds you captive. It can only continue to hurt you if you hold on to it. Let the past go. A simply abundant world awaits." ~ Sarah Breathnach
"As you gradually train your own thoughts into those of positive expectation, as you align with thoughts of worthiness and Well-Being, as you align with your true power by seeking good-feeling thoughts—you will no longer offer resistance to your own abundance. And when your resistance stops, your abundance will come. A flood of good-feeling ideas and possibilities will flow to you. Opportunities and propositions will be plentiful. And soon you will stand in knowing amusement that all of this was always there within your reach, but in your resistant state of attraction, you were not yet able to experience it but then, it came—not because of your struggle but because of your ease." ~ Abraham-Hicks
There are legends and mythology from thousands of years ago, plus beautiful love poetry and quotes - to definitely put you in the mood for love!
The Valentine card above isn't in the book - it still needs a lot of time spent on it.