When you're in the middle of a challenge it's not easy to see the reason for it. But when you feel grateful for the challenge you immediately make it pass more easily.
I was taught the old saying, "You can't see the wood for the trees", and it's true. When you feel overwhelmed, and only see all the blocks preventing you from moving forward - that is all you can see.
You have to distance yourself from your challenge if you want to find a solution (and there's never only one answer). Going for a walk in those trees would be ideal, but you can take a walk without going anywhere. Your thoughts can conjure up a place you love to be, and when you feel relaxed and happy you've done the best thing you can ever do for yourself.
"But, I have to get through this!" you shout - I understand the frustration, that's why you have to leave it alone. Staying in the middle of your challenge can only make you feel worse.
When you feel bad you won't have helpful thoughts.
When you feel better your mind will look for helpful thoughts.
Focus on making yourself feel as good as possible, and that allows your mind to relax.
Feeling relaxed is always the answer!
Just a couple of minutes is enough to calm down, and begin to feel better. Once you feel better, and your mind isn't crowded with worry and stress, you'll know that's how you prefer to feel.
I promise you will always get to the other side. It might not be in the way you were convinced it was going to happen - but when you look back, it's worked out for your best.
- Don't keep a fixed idea of how things must happen.
- Letting go of the only way saves you enormous amounts of stress.
- Believe you already have the solution - your relaxed, calm mind does.
- Trust in yourself - remember you've come through challenges before.
- Be guided by how you feel - and always aim to feel better.
- Accept you won't be going in a straight line, and flow around the bumps.
- Appreciate each small step - even though it wasn't your first choice.
- No matter what - make "thank you" your first words every day.
Being grateful for my challenges was a tough lesson to learn, but now I know the Universe is working to find me better solutions than I could ever dream up for myself - I trust that blocks are there to steer us in a different direction.
The Universe can see the big picture while we keep ourselves stuck. Once we allow ourselves to be guided in those different directions, we'll end up in a much better place - and we'll appreciate the beautiful wood we were missing out on.
Don't wait to appreciate your challenge in hindsight - find ways to be grateful for this learning journey, and everything will work out much smoother and faster.
“You simply will not be the same person two months from now after consciously giving thanks each day for the abundance that exists in your life. And you will have set in motion an ancient spiritual law: the more you have and are grateful for, the more will be given you.” ~ Sarah Ban Breathnach
“Gratitude should not be just a reaction to getting what you want, but an all-the-time gratitude, the kind where you notice the little things and where you constantly look for the good, even in unpleasant situations. Start bringing gratitude to your experiences, instead of waiting for a positive experience in order to feel grateful.” ~ Marelisa Fábrega
“Whatever our individual troubles and challenges may be, it’s important to pause every now and then to appreciate all that we have, on every level. We need to literally “count our blessings,” give thanks for them, allow ourselves to enjoy them, and relish the experience of prosperity we already have.” ~ Shakti Gawain
"If you concentrate on finding what is good in every situation, you will discover that your life will suddenly be filled with gratitude, a feeling that nurtures the soul.” ~ Rabbi Harold Kushner