We all collect stories about money as we grow up, and they affect how we treat it today. You will have absorbed memories which you've long forgotten, but they will be locked in your subconscious.
If you need help to create a lasting relationship with money, these tips will help.
The answer to all of the following questions is you're not paying money enough attention, and when it's neglected, it won't keep turning up. You have to have a good relationship with money, because it's necessary for you to have the freedom to make choices on how you want to live.
Is money difficult to find?
You deserve a life you love, but you have to put in consistent effort to create it. The part that will never change is being good to yourself first, and ensuring you feel good. When you love yourself without any reservations, and you're able to block any critical thoughts, you will feel confident that you're good enough, just as you are.
Get to the place where you know you don't need anything to fix you - you are already whole, and you have always been whole. When you know you don't have anything missing, you no longer need to search for people or things to fill the gaps.
Now you can approach money in the same way that you treat yourself. You've learned it's easy to find ways to love yourself, because you can add up all your good qualities, and focus on them. That means you don't put up any barriers to finding money, because you expect it to be loveable.
Do you buy something you wanted but it doesn't satisfy you like you thought it would, and you feel disappointed?
If you enter a relationship with your own feelings of dissatisfaction with any part of you, you project them, and you will find things that don't measure up, in your opinion. If you notice yourself judging or criticizing, that's the time when you stop and check what is making you feel unhappy about yourself.
When you already know you have, and are, enough you won't hold unrealistic expectations that are too high for money to ever reach. This makes you far more appreciative of the small things money can buy, and gratitude always raises your mood, and brings you rewards.
Is money hard to keep hold of?
If you don't respect and value yourself, you also won't care how you look after your money. If you never have enough at the end of the month, no matter how many pay rises you have, then you're far too casual, and money won't hang around. You have to pay attention, and make money feel special.
If you find a small coin on the floor, don't think "That's not worth picking up." Never dismiss the evidence that the Universe is trying to show you. Instead, start to think about how small beginnings can grow into something worthwhile when you nurture them. Feel excited with every sign that you can attract money.
Do you know exactly how much money you have coming in, and going out each month?
Make time to manage your money better, so it doesn't feel ignored and neglected. Set a regular time each week to check up, and you will feel better for being organized, and this routine will prevent you from becoming overwhelmed. This is the stage where you can start feeling comfortable around money.
Don't resent having to pay bills, tell yourself how great it is you can cook, and have light and heating. Don't take everyday essentials for granted.
When you love and care for yourself, you will want to be around a long time to enjoy the exciting life you have to look forward to, so you will want to start planning to support your retirement. You will lose your fear of the future when you know you've only got good times to look forward to.
. . . And they lived happily ever after!
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"The path of Love & the path of Insight, lead into the same garden." ~ Stephen Mitchell
"Beliefs separate. Loving thoughts unite." ~ Paul Ferrini