Be patient with yourself.
Be kind to yourself.
Find quiet time for yourself.
Enjoy your favorite hobby.
Cook your favorite food.
Take your favorite walks.
Loving yourself doesn't cost anything - but not loving yourself will cost you everything.
If you allow others to make demands of you, so you haven't got time to do what you wanted - you will resent them. When you resent them, you can't love them, and when your life is filled with people who you don't love completely - you have trapped yourself in a web of your own making.
You can only break away from that web by putting your needs first. Every time someone asks you to do something for them, stop, and ask if it will make you happy too. If not, simply say you're too busy. Because you are always too busy to do anything that drags your mood down.
I spent too many years feeling wasted emotions of guilt, running round trying to please everyone else. It never works - because each person is only ever responsible for making themselves happy. Until you're happy with yourself, exactly as you are, this second, you can never be made happy by someone else.
Why live in a vicious circle of frustration where you can't please others, no matter how much you try, and nobody can fully please you?
Only when you have the ability to create your own moods, no matter what your circumstances, because you love all of yourself, will you escape from the losing battle of putting others' needs before your own.
When you love yourself you feel strong inside, because you're not pulled this way, or that, by the desires of others that don't match your own. This has nothing to do with being too selfish to look after your children, or your parents - it has to do with being able to give them more, because you're giving from a place of love - not obligation. They will know the difference, and they will respect you more.
Loving yourself is the best lesson you can pass on to your children. When you tune in to what feels good for you, and only choose what feels good, you will build up your self confidence. This gives you the sense of security to know you always make the best choices, and this feeling takes you as far away as possible from feelings of fear.
When you know absolutely, without any doubts, that you're good enough just as you are - harsh words or criticism won't touch you. You can let it go, because inside you know it's not true. When you feel insecure, you need the approval of others - and this gives them the opening to hurt you, if that's how they're inclined.
Being able to connect with the true you with ZPoint is how you build up your feelings of security. You will experience what it means to love yourself as you really are, and that is how you know the feelings to maintain to make yourself happy.
When you feel secure with yourself, you can be in the middle of a storm, but you won't get blown away. I've been through a lot of storms, and I can promise you - that feels good beyond words!
"It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power." ~ Alan Cohen
"There is no real security except for whatever you build inside yourself." ~ Gilda Radner