Looking for peaceful solutions has been the best choice for me, and I've been surprised how I've been able to be on Facebook for around 3 years without any drama.
Everyone talks about the bullies who hide behind their computer screens, especially on Twitter. I've got a couple of accounts with over 7,000 followers each - and in 5 years I haven't seen one bad incident.
I keep a strict focus on who I follow, and if someone makes a comment that is rude or offensive I immediately unfollow them. I don't dwell on what I've read, or allow it to affect me. That means the information that passes me by daily is positive and uplifting, or at the very least - inoffensive.
When you monitor what you accept into your life, you keep control of how you feel. Social media is the same as 'real life' - you set the boundaries, and don't give permission for anyone to cross them. This means what you do see makes you feel good, and raises your own spirits to want to contribute something good back. You can create the online environment you want to see - not what others tell you to expect.
So . . . when I see an intelligent writer, with an even more intelligent wife, who was a highly respected journalist, making jokes over a photo of a girl holding a gun - I was very surprised. If it was anyone else I would have kept on scrolling down the Facebook feed.
Instead, I made a comment about how could any photo with a gun be considered funny. This was responded to, and I added another comment along the lines of when you use humor it makes the use of guns acceptable.
I watched Bowling For Columbine, by Michael Moore, years ago and it made a lasting impression on me. I urge everyone to watch this film on YouTube. Essentially, it shows how the media in America manipulates what is shown as news, so everyone is kept in a state of fear. Governments use fear to control and suppress the masses.
You are not shown the truth on your TV screens, and living in fear is the worst way to exist.
When you connect to your own inner truth, you recognize that just because the government said something, it doesn't make it true. Keeping to what feels right for you, even when it's in opposition to the majority, is what makes you healthy and happy. How you feel as an individual is far more important than being a sheep following the herd, because trying to ignore your truth eats away at you inside.
I wouldn't have written this today, except the person on Facebook deleted my comments - and I decided this was a serious subject that should be open for discussion. It was the same day that the leader of a political party in the UK lost his seat, and resigned. He was an appalling racist who has caused a great deal of division, which incites violence, and it felt good knowing others agreed.
Plus, it was the 70th Anniversary to commemorate V. E. Day - the end of the Second World War. On a day when so many lost their lives to give us the freedom to speak our own truths, I was saddened to find polite views at variance with their own had been removed.
It's when people don't speak out about what they see as wrong that atrocities like wars happen. Guns will never be funny. Guns were only created to kill. Nobody has the right to take away another's life.
Plus, whole species of wild animals have been wiped out by the "sport" of hunting. How can anyone justify their "right to hunt" when they've killed animals who existed for thousand of years before them?
I'm happy to be wrong on every opinion I hold, but I will always believe the truth that finding guns a source of amusement isn't acceptable.
Be the girl on the right in the photo - and always speak your truth.
Never let fear stop you from doing and saying what you know is true for you.
The usual light-hearted service will be resumed next week!
"If you shut up truth and bury it under the ground, it will but grow, and gather to itself such explosive power that the day it bursts through it will blow up everything in its way." ~ Emile Zola
"Truth can hardly be expected to adapt herself to the crooked policy and wily sinuosities of worldly affairs; for truth, like light, travels only in straight lines." ~ Charles Caleb Colton
"It is only when you are constantly inquiring, constantly observing, constantly learning, that you find truth, God, or love." ~ Jiddu Krishnamurti
"Truth is within ourselves." ~ Robert Browning