Whenever you think about what upsets you, you will feel tighter, and more restricted, even if you aren't aware of these changes. This tension creates aches and pains, so you will be affected both in your mind and body.
Instead, if you treat your stress the same way you treat your pet then you will be gentle, kind and loving, instead of becoming upset and angry. This could feel like a stretch, but by using the Tonglen method you will find it's possible.
By breathing your pain in, you are not denying its existence, and you are no longer trying to resist its hold over you. When you welcome your issue as you relax more with each deep breath, and you send out love, then you will also feel the benefits of the loving emotions.
You might find it easier to give love to others, especially to your pet, while you don't give yourself the same attention. By breathing out love, you are absorbing more as your painful stress is gradually fading away.
This method will help you lessen the fear you can feel when you think about your stress, and when you allow yourself to address it, you will know that you feel better in minutes. Don't put off facing your issues any longer, because each day you feel stressed is another day lost - you can never get it back again.
If your pet was suffering as much as you do, you would take instant action to make it better - so do the same for yourself!
The ZPoint Process communicates with your unconscious effortlessly as you relax, and it can find the source of your stress. For example, you might think your boss at work is the reason, but you could be triggered by how you were spoken to by a teacher when you were young. This means that you're affected by the emotions locked inside you as a child, which is why your reaction is strong enough to cause stress.
ZPoint is as gentle as Tonglen breathing, and when you replace pain with love you've removed the place where that existed, and you will search for more ways to fill yourself up with love.
"The fragrance always remains in the hand that gives the rose." ~ Heda Bejar
"Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver." ~ Barbara de Angelis