This "Why" has nothing to do with the natural curiosity of a child, who is continually learning how the world around them works.
"Why" is negative when you know there is no answer. You will remember the awful uncertainty of your teenage years, and the hours you spent in tears asking your friends, "Why hasn't he phoned me back?" "Why did he treat me like that?" etc etc . . .
As soon as you ask why, when it's impossible to know what the other person is thinking, you create a knot of anxiety in your stomach, which spirals out of control the more questions you ask. You can't guess someone else's thoughts that cause them to act as they do - and you'll only drive yourself crazy if you try.
You can only learn to control your own thoughts, feelings, and actions. When you let go of the need to ask questions that only dig you into a deep pit of misery, you free yourself to focus on what makes you happy.
Now, this is the time to ask the "Why" that will ensure you remain free and happy, as long as you live. This is the question you have to find the answer for to satisfy your soul: "Why are you here?"
Everyone has their own unique talent. You don't have to be a ballet dancer, or an opera singer - you can be a good listener who makes people feel special. You could turn this skill into counseling teenagers who have problems at home that are leading them into trouble with the law.
When you ask yourself why you love doing this, you would know, deep inside, the absolute joy you experience when you see a teenager blossom as they grow to trust you. You wouldn't swap that feeling for any amount of money. (But it is connecting to your "Why" that will attract money to support your choice.)
If you think you like painting, and ask "Why?" - and you come up with a response like:
"I like dabbling on a wet Sunday afternoon" - that is not your "Why".
You have to feel so passionate about what you love to do, that you couldn't imagine not doing it, and you miss it when you're not doing it, because it's a part of who you are.
When you think you've found your "Why" - ask yourself how you would feel if you could never do it again. If you instantly feel upset, that confirms you've made the right choice. Once you discover the direction your future will take, you will feel a sense of security that will keep you on your path.
When you find your reason for being here, you will also know without any doubt that you are enough. The more you share your gift, the more you fill yourself up inside - and that's the place that matters.
My "Why" is seeing the difference someone feels when they're free of the limiting beliefs that kept them stuck. As we discussed last week, it's never too late to become who you're meant to be. Please get in touch if you want to uncover your "Why" - and love the life you live.
"Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice; it is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved." ~ William Jennings Bryan
"The block of granite which was an obstacle in the pathway of the weak becomes a stepping-stone in the pathway of the strong. That block of granite is often nothing more than a decision." ~ Thomas Carlyle
"Joy does not simply happen to us. We have to choose joy and keep choosing it every day." ~ Henri Nouwen